Tuesday, June 30, 2020

A couple of recent purchases


Since I’m now busy in paint mode every day, I don’t have lots of time to post.  Let me share a few of my craigslist purchases in the last month for the house:



This chaise was $75 on craigslist, in brand new condition.  My favorite spot to watch tv!


I saw this game table and chair set posted on craigslist for $200, but I didn't have an opportunity to buy it.  After a few weeks, the ad disappeared.  I kept rechecking, and three weeks later, the ad appeared again, this time with a price of $100.  It is beautiful, comfortable and has never been used.  Really high quality, the best kind of craigslist find. (The seller told me he bought it as furniture he was using to stage a house he was selling.)  This will go in the basement room.  Perfect!


A Queen Anne reclining chair for $20.  See, recliners don't have to be ugly!


This sofa was $200.  Really comfortable, and looks new.  This is for the upstairs living room.

Monday, June 29, 2020

It passed inspection!


I think I may have mentioned already (?) that I’m kind of a thrifty person.  I find myself often telling my son: it’s important to save money on non-essential things, so you have money not only when you need it, but also for the things you really want.

So what is non-essential and what should we really want?  I think that’s determined by the individual.

I think it’s safe to say that my son and I are opposites in many ways, but here’s a big one: one of my “non-essentials” is my car.  (To be clear, my car actually is essential!  But how it looks – well, that’s just not so important to me.)  This is mind boggling to my son, whose passion is cars, and particularly, beautiful sports cars.  I’m honestly amazed he ever sets foot in my car at all.

My car is 20-years-old, and looks that at least.  About 10 years ago the paint started chipping off in decent size amounts; in the beginning I actually bought touch-up paint and sanded and painted it.

But six years ago a sixteen-year-old girl backed into the front of the car on the driver’s side, and left an enormous dent.  (It was her first day with her license.)  Fortunately no one was in the car, but wow, it looked awful.  




The insurance company gave us $1800 to fix it, but it was still drive-able with the ugly dent, and I just couldn’t justify putting the money back into the car, since it was fourteen years old, and I was positive it was going to die any day. Why put $1800 into a car that’s about to die?

Well, this car just won’t die.

And the longer he goes (his name is Casper – he’s white like the ghost) the more I want to see how long he CAN go.

He’s kind of like an old dog, and old dogs are the best, because they’re loyal and predictable and you share years and years of special memories with them.

So for eight years now I’ve been saying that this is the year he’ll kick it – and he just keeps going.

Meanwhile, although he seems to run just fine, every single part of him is breaking apart, including most of the plastic on the inside.  The air conditioning is iffy; so is the heat.  A couple of years ago the gas gauge broke so I always have to keep track in my head of how far I’ve driven and when I need to fill up with gas again.  I was mistaken once and ran out of gas in the middle of the city and found myself stranded in the inner lane of a four lane highway.  That was not a great experience.       

The hydraulics in the trunk no longer function; I have to prop the trunk open with a 2x4 if I'm loading or unloading from it.  The back left taillight used to go out every time it rained.  We finally determined it was a cheap enough fix that it was worth paying to repair it.


Remember when my son broke this piece off the dashboard?


This mirror has been backed into more times than I can count.  It's barely hanging on - one of these days a strong wind is going to take it off completely.


My husband has enormous heavy arms - this is damage to the arm rest is from him resting his elbow.  Really!


I just noticed the plastic separating in the ignition.  This is probably not good.
Duct tape, perhaps?

So, even if Casper is still drive-able we have a bit of stress each year when it comes time to pass his annual inspection.  See, if any of the dashboard signals are lit and obviously mal-functioning, the car will not pass inspection.  Quite a few of my dashboard signals light up randomly but by some miracle have not been lit up at the time of past inspections.

For once COVID has done something good.  When vehicle inspection time rolled around this year, the emissions testing place was closed due to Coronavirus.  We waited for its reopening, only to be told eventually that any car that was due to be inspected during the first few months of COVID would be automatically passed for the year.

Congratulations, Casper!  May you continue to transport me in style.

**Note**  I was working a car show a few years ago and comparing old car stories with this guy who drove a Honda.  He showed me a photo on his phone he had just taken that week of his car’s odometer – it had just broken 500,000 miles.  Another kindred spirit!  Casper, you’ve got some competition!


**Note #2**  So if I'm saving money on my "non-essentials" like a nice-looking car, what is worth it to me to actually spend money on?  A lake house, of course!

Thursday, June 25, 2020

I’m finally back!!


So I took a little break (of over a week) to prepare for the festivities surrounding my son’s high school graduation.  I had to go back to the home/house to clean and get ready for a family visit.

Well, we made it through, the boy graduated (SO PROUD of your hard work, Tavo!) and now, again, the calendar is clear for a while.


He did it!

Now I’m back at The House of Goodwill, ready to get back to work.  Time to make some progress!  I came here by myself for a few days to paint the main living room.  It seems like it will be much easier to do without my four other family members here; of course I thought painting the bedroom was a one-day project as well and we all know how that went…Fingers crossed this time!

Since I don’t have a before/after photo of my room to share yet, I’ll just share a couple more pics from my last trip to Goodwill a few days ago, in case you’re inspired by my last post to get your Christmas shopping checked off early.

These fabulous finds contain both my former inspiration, ducks, and the Christmas spirit as well.



This "girl with ducks" statue will set you back just $5 at Goodwill.  (NO, I did not buy it!)  I had no idea ducks were such popular decor until I started looking.  The perfect Christmas gift for your friend who loves ducks, odd statues or lives on the lake.
Please, no one give this to me.



I told you ducks are popular!  Now we have Christmas ducks.  No hearts this time, though.


Anybody you know still need a Christmas decoration for that empty spot on the mantle?  Here we have a "lovely" statue of Santa and reindeer...sometimes I just don't know what to say.

Happy holidays to all!

Wednesday, June 24, 2020

A little early Christmas shopping


Last week, when I had to make a special trip to the hardware store that sells paint, I decided to check out the local Goodwill in Lexington, TN.

To be honest, I will probably never be disappointed by a Goodwill.  That said, it wasn’t as good as the Goodwill near my home/house.  (So I would guess that Goodwills in larger cities probably have a bit of an edge over the ones in small towns.  That, and I live in a very affluent suburb - at the home/house - so the donations are pretty great.)

I still found some spectacular stuff.

Doesn’t everybody who attends a white elephant party at Christmas shop for it at Goodwill?  If you don’t, you’re really missing out.  I found some excellent white elephant gifts at Goodwill.  (Or, if you’re my brothers who just like to give me crap, just gifts.)  

Speaking of which, now I really wish I had bought these things for some payback. 

(I’m thinking particularly of my brother who gave me a toilet-shaped ice cream bowl a few years back.  Although I admit I wear the sweatshirt he bought me with Grumpy cat that says, “Your present is in the litter box” quite proudly everywhere I go in December.)

Prepare to be amazed, people:


Ah, the innocent years...I actually wish I had bought this for my son who claims to dislike both board games and Justin Bieber.


No one ever told me there was a phone for this!!  I guess it doesn't need to be plugged in, right?


Who DOESN'T need a Sophia Chia?

If you're anywhere in the vicinity of the Lexington, Tennessee Goodwill, these items MAY still be available.  We're halfway to Christmas!  Get it done while the good stuff's still there!

Tuesday, June 23, 2020

Does a “themed house” = grandma’s house?


Life is full of lines.  Very fine lines sometimes.  For example, there’s a line between being able to eat and enjoy the donuts and eating to consider one’s health.  There’s a line between using time productively and being able to throw purposeful-ness to the wind and just relax.  And there’s a line between living on a budget and relaxing the grip on the wallet occasionally.  (Yes, I really believe that.)

Managing life successfully means learning to find and walk all the lines.

I believe that good taste, too, comes from finding the line between not enough and too much.

I think houses that are well put together have elements throughout that help make them appear unified, as opposed to being a random collection of stuff.  I also think this happens naturally for lots of people, as most people tend to be drawn to the same kinds of colors, and styles and things.

Daresay I call them themes?

When I think of a “themed house” I inevitably think of lots of grandmas’ houses that I’ve been to.  I used to visit my friend’s grandma’s house in the town where we grew up.  For some reason, her grandmother began collecting Fisher Price people (yes, really) and sticking them in every spare niche of her home.  (If she was still alive, she’d be rich of course.  I wonder if she passed this inheritance down to my friend?)  It was quirky, it was endearing; it was a lot of Fisher Price people.

I walked into a cabin years ago that some friends had bought fully furnished, and the place had a bear theme.  Everywhere you looked was a bear.  Stuffed bears, bear pillows, bear rugs, they even had a window on the front door with an etching of a bear when you entered.  It was a lot of bears.

I love reading old “Taste of Home” magazines.  (Seriously, the recipes are great!)  Each old magazine has a section celebrating “Country Themed Kitchens” where the best one each month won $50, or something like that.  Every kitchen featured was overloaded with either tractors, roosters or apples (etc.) in the form of curtains, salt shakers, statues and dishes, etc.  And the more the better!

So I’m a little hesitant to admit that The House of Goodwill has some themes.  And I’ve been wondering, where is the line between a unified-looking house in good taste vs. a “themed” house?

I’ve been collecting some duck stuff (hey, it’s a lake house!) but I’ve found myself reeling it in just a bit lately.  I’m a little afraid of turning my beautiful airbnb into grandma’s house.

I promise: my house will have just enough ducks.

As evidence, I will share a few thrifted ducks I’ve bought, and a few ducks I’ve seen and passed up.


I loved these cross stitched ducks so much, I shelled out the BIG money for them ($20) from an antique store.


This little $4 duck statue was at the same antique store.  Cute!!


I paid more big money ($10) for this little guy.  I love vintage wall pockets, because you can put tiny little flower arrangements on your walls.


Believe it or not, I passed up this $5 bargain at Goodwill.  Unfortunately, no towels will be hanging over ducks at this house.


This cookie jar reminds me of some random duck drinking glasses my mom bought somewhere and had this strange attachment to when I was growing up.  I'm pretty sure they contained the classic ducks + hearts pattern too.


And finally, we have some duck "fashion soap" at Goodwill.  The fine print reads, "For somebody who prefers the most in quality and style."  Sadly, perhaps, my renters will not be able to cleanse themselves with fashion soap.

**Note**  Do we grow into good taste?  I hope so!  I would just like to admit, I was right there with ‘em in 1996.  If I had bought The House of Goodwill at that time, I would probably be entering the themed kitchen contest in "Taste of Home" myself, with more ducks than you’ve ever seen in one place.  Viva the 1990s!



Monday, June 22, 2020

An artistic predicament


When The House of Goodwill was completely empty and new, I made my plan for the art I wanted to use on the walls.  I wanted something special.  Something unique.  I won’t go into it here – I want to leave it for a future post, once I make it – but it involves using vintage photos I have and making custom images.

But as the décor started evolving and coming together the furniture and rugs and linens began creating some themes.  Flowers and birds (including ducks) kept showing up.  And as I went thrifting, I kept finding really cool images of flowers and birds.

I wasn’t really expecting that.

I’m a little particular about what hangs on the walls.  I hesitate to even call it art, because I really believe true art is something special – not a $10 print bought at a furniture store because it matches the curtains.  I really hate generic “art.”  I think to really be considered art, a piece has to special and unique somehow.

So I was very surprised that I found so many things I liked to put on the walls, including these original pieces found at Goodwill and a thrift store:


I love this delicate bird drawing I found at a thrift store for $7.


My son said this looks like a child drew it.  I beg to disagree!  I love the form and colors, especially the recessed lamp in the background.  This pastel drawing was $4 at Goodwill.


This is a really, really lovely painting up close.  I didn't buy it the first time I saw it; there were two by the same artist at Goodwill.  This was my favorite of the two, so I was glad to see it again when I went back.  $15.


I really liked this tree photograph at Goodwill, and figured if I ever got tired of it, it's still a really nice frame for $10.

I’ve found so much cool wall decor, I’m not going to have much room for my originals!

A Goodwill tip: Really large picture frames are really expensive.  You can find lots of really big generic art prints at Goodwill priced well.  If you have a personal photograph you want to enlarge or something else really big you want to frame, buy the "art" for the frames.  Many times the frames are way nicer than the print inside, and it's much cheaper to buy a print, throw it away and use the frame, than to buy a new, large frame.

Thursday, June 18, 2020

When did I become “vintage?”


So you know those jokes that start with, “so you know you’re old when _______?”

I think I’ve got a new punchline for that.

Over the last few years I’ve noticed some new additions to the flea markets/antique malls/junk shops that I like to haunt: stuff I played with when I was a kid.  This was very disconcerting when I first noticed it.

Did you know that Fisher Price toys and Little Golden Books from the 1980’s sell for a lot of money these days?  True story!



I think every pre-school in the 1980's had this puzzle.


This cruise ship (minus people) and 2 other Fisher Price sets (in ok condition) were $75 at an estate sale.

At first I told myself it’s because most of this stuff got worn out, and now what’s left is a “collector’s item.”  (Ie. NOT an “antique.")

But this sign at the consignment store made it pretty clear:


Can you read the price tag on the depot on the left?  (Without any accessories.)  $50!!

So I guess if the toys I played with as a kid are considered “vintage” – and I’m the same age – this makes me vintage as well.  (Pardon me while I step back from the sign so I can read the small print.)

When did this happen?  The next time I’m at Cracker Barrel will there be My Little Ponies hanging on the wall next to me?

You know what this means?  (Aside from the fact that I’m old?)

Mom, you could have been rich!!

You laughed at the story of my grandmother throwing away my dad’s childhood baseball card collection when he went to college – but you put our plastic Fisher Price toys in a garage sale!

I would like to hold this against you, but no worries.  I’m old enough that I’ll probably have forgotten about it by the time I wake up tomorrow.

Wednesday, June 17, 2020

The creepy, fantastic estate sale

Since I am home for ten days, I decided to take advantage of the opportunity to hit some estate sales since I still need quite a few things for The House of Goodwill.  COVID had shut down all of them for months, and there is a sudden explosion every weekend of estate sales all over the city.

So I got up at the crack of dawn for the second day in a row, and headed out to some estate sales that looked promising in a wealthy suburb.

They both turned out to be very disappointing.  The stuff was ok, just not really what I needed, and more than that, priced too high.  (I understand when antiques are priced high.  You can’t just go out and find another one.  But when regular items are priced about the same as something you’d pick up at a store – except I have to clean these first – why not just buy it at a store?)

I’m actually at a place in my House of Goodwill shopping where my needs are pretty specific.  I’ve actually got a lot of stuff.  It’s certain types of furniture that I’m still looking for.  (Mostly dressers and armoires, etc.  But they have to be priced well to fit the budget.)

There was another estate sale in a part of town that is not great.  But the pictures of the stuff in the house looked pretty good, so I headed there.

To be honest, when I pulled up to the house I almost didn’t get out of the car.  It was a tiny house that didn’t look like it could possibly have anything inside that you would want.  But because I drove seven miles to get there, I thought I’d at least go in.

And, oh. My. Goodness.

I almost titled this post “House of Hoarding” because that is definitely what it was.  There was so much stuff in this tiny house that I couldn’t believe anybody had been actually living in it.  And it was all so WEIRD.


Zoom in on this pic and note: the stacks and stacks of crates on the left, the rows of piled-up chairs and the lineup of flower pots.  The inside was even worse...

But, oh, the stuff!  I was told a little old lady had been living there and boy, did she have great taste!

She had amazing antiques, and TONS of them.  Beautiful glassware, silver-plated serving dishes, antique pewter and candlesticks galore.  I mean, her collection was amazing!

But the rest of the house was just so weird.

The first tiny room when you entered was just walls of books (so she was weird, but a kindred spirit too).

There was no dining table or place to enjoy all this amazing antique dinnerware.  Just a path through the shelves and shelves of stuff.



The gross green carpet looked like it had been there since 1950.

There was this room full of all this old technology – and everything she had, she had multiples of.  Did you want to buy a 1970’s video camera?  There were at least 8.  Everything was covered in an inch of dust and the room was dark and gross; it looked like the headquarters for a pedophile club from 1982.



I don’t know if it was the location of the estate sale or what, but hardly anybody was there.  I was thinking about this as I was descending into the dark, creepy basement.



A great place for a murder.  You'd never be able to find the body under all the stuff.

I will be the first to admit that I have a lot of stuff.  But wow.  There must have been 30 chairs piled up in the basement.  Multiple tables.  Several sets of fireplace pokers, etc.  (And the house did not have a fireplace.)  Boxes and boxes and boxes of cheap Christmas decorations.  How could she have such amazing taste in antiques but fill the rest of her house with so much crap?  I really wanted to meet this lady.


What's an old lady doing with a stack of naked Barbies?

I made several buckets full of the kind of random stuff a house needs: extra paintbrushes, extension cords, miscellaneous tools, nightlights, etc.  This basement had everything.  Did you need a 50-foot extension cord?  Here was a box of 20!

For once in my life I bypassed the antiques and picked out the kitchen things I still needed.  (I had forgotten the house has two kitchens that will need to be equipped.)

It was really the perfect place to pick up lots of the necessary stuff, really cheap.  I bought this shabby chic two-tier blue table I thought I may put in the living room for $8.  That’s less than lunch at most restaurants.  If I end up not using it, I figure I can afford the mistake.

And I happened to meet another kindred spirit who was shopping, almost as long as I was.  She bought the silver plated candlesticks I almost bought when I first saw them.  We got into a conversation about estate sales and antiques and the best way to polish silver (she loves doing it, I hate it) and I thought – if she wasn’t a stranger I was meeting at a random estate sale - we’d probably be great friends.

But you know who I really, really wanted to have dinner with?

The lady who owned the house.

I have no idea what we would have talked about, but I know it would have been interesting.

Monday, June 15, 2020

The answer to frustration


As I have mentioned, I’ve been really looking forward to making progress on The House of Goodwill.  There is so much that needs to be done to set it up to be an airbnb: yardwork, painting, cleaning, installing a fence and having a dock built.  And I continue to be frustrated in my attempts to move forward.

Every week for a month, I’ve been expecting to spend most of my week at The House of Goodwill.  The house is two hours away from my home/house, not a bad drive at all.  Every week we need to come back for a few days to retrieve mail, mow the lawn (my son also does the neighbor’s), get allergy shots and take/drop off our foster kids for their family visitations.

But for different reasons, we keep having to spend the bulk of our week at our home/house.

This week, it’s for my son’s graduation.  (A very good reason!)  Despite COVID, there will be an actual graduation ceremony, and my parents are flying in to town to attend.

Because of our work on The House of Goodwill (not to mention the full-time foster parent job that I thought was ending two weeks ago), our home/house has not been able to receive much attention.  (Translation: it’s a huge mess that I wasn’t planning on addressing until fall, when the other house is completed and the foster kids are gone.)

We had to leave The House of Goodwill on a Wednesday (I had just finished my five day/one room painting project) because I had two foster kid doctor appointments on Thursday at home.  I realized there was no point in returning to The House of Goodwill over the weekend, as I’d only have a day or two before I’d have to come back here again to tackle getting my home/house ready for my parent’s visit and graduation festivities.

So when I left The House of Goodwill, I realized I would not be back for about 10 more days.

So much for progress.

God really, really, really wants me to develop patience.

If nothing else, foster parenting has taught me to really let go of my own agenda.  I can focus on my frustration, or (try) to let it go and let what will be, be.

I saw this quote by Joyce Meyer in Guideposts magazine this month, and it hit me perfectly:



So I got up at the crack of dawn yesterday, put my best attitude of patience on, and took the foster kids to their (three hour!) semi-annual physical at the health department.

They made the three-year-old wear a mask (due to COVID); this did not start our (three hour!) visit off well.  He cried and cried because he had to wear a mask; the two-year-old cried and cried because he was too young to wear one.

(And this was BEFORE the screaming/crying/thrashing that came from having blood drawn, getting multiple shots and having instruments stuck in their mouths and ears.)

 

I think this photo pretty much sums it up

Patience.

Thank you God that my son made it to graduation!  Thank you for family visits.  Thank you for my (two) houses to clean and take care of.  Thank you for the foster kids.  Thank you for it all.

Trust (and thanksgiving) are the answers to frustration.  Thank you, Joyce, for the reminder.

Sunday, June 14, 2020

The non-comedy of errors


Ok, so the plan was simple.  I was headed to The House of Goodwill by myself last week, two days before the rest of my family was to join me.  The idea was, I could paint the master bedroom without distraction, and be SO productive.  Oh, the things I could get done in 2 days!  It was going to be amazing.

That is UNTIL my fateful stop at the local hardware store that sells paint (which shall remain unnamed, for purposes of goodwill.)

And this is where the non-comedy starts.  Always, in the past, when I have purchased paint from a Lowe’s or Home Depot store, the last thing done by the employees was a color check of the paint before they handed me the cans to take to check out.

At this unnamed hardware store that sells paint, the paint guy went off to mix my paint out of sight.  When he returned with my two gallons of paint, I paid (A LOT – I have learned small towns = higher prices) and left.

On day number one I discovered that the ladder my husband had previously brought to the house was NOT my painting stepladder.  (It was a 50 pound ladder that I dragged up a spiral staircase by myself, only to discover there was no way I could use it.)


the dark bedroom before

No matter, I would start painting the edges and corners of the room and save the higher up places for the next day, when my husband and son were coming and could bring me my stepladder.

Day 1 = 3 coats of paint on edges and corners of lower 2/3 of room.  This took until 9pm.


day 1 "progress" - at least it's lightening up a little

On day 2 I got up, and decided to roll the walls until my family arrived with the ladder.  So I rolled two coats of paint, and prepared to do a third with the second gallon of paint.

And here was the problem: when I opened the second gallon of paint, it was a completely different color than the first can.  (And it was gray!  The color I was trying to cover up!)


this is what we call a bad surprise

I called my husband (who was on his way to the house) to see if he could stop at the paint store and pick up a gallon in the right color so I could finish.  It was about 3pm.  He called me back two minutes later to tell me that the store had closed at 2pm, and wouldn’t be open again until Monday morning.  (It was Saturday.)

So I had spent two days painting, and gotten only 2/3 done.  And I didn’t have any more paint till I could go back to the store.

“It’s like A Comedy of Errors,” commented my husband (who had NOT wasted the last two days).  My response – “This is the opposite of a comedy.”

Fast forward to Monday morning.  I was back at the paint store, where the paint department (ie. the paint guy) was baffled as to how my two cans of paint were different colors.  After 20 minutes, he told me he had figured out the problem, one of the tubes in the paint mixing machine that adds tint to the paint was not working.  But he was currently too busy to fix it and could I stop back later?

So I stopped back later, and the paint department let me know he had continued to be so slammed he did not have the chance to fix it, and could I come back to tomorrow?

Note: tomorrow would be four days after I had started painting this one room.

Now it’s tomorrow, and my husband stops by the paint store for me to pick up the paint.  The paint department still did not have it ready and he said he would deliver it to our house when he got it ready, which he did later that afternoon.

Note: I realized after painting 2/3 of the room that I did not need a whole (expensive) second gallon of paint to finish the room, but the store does not sell ½ gallons of paint.  Therefore he brought me two quarter gallons of paint to finish the room.  Do you see where this is going?

So, desperately hoping to (FINALLY) finish this (one) room, I opened the first quarter gallon of paint and rolled a third coat, only it wasn’t quite enough to coat all four walls.  I also noticed upon opening this can that it was a slightly different (close, but darker) shade of the color than the first gallon I had put on the wall, but no matter, since I had two new cans at least the final coat on everything would match.

I opened the second quarter gallon of paint to finish.  Can you guess what I saw?  Yes, you are correct, the second quarter gallon did not match the first quarter gallon. (Which did not match the first gallon.) (And I am out of ideas of how this happened; apparently their paint machine is still off.)

And if I had just bought a second full gallon (instead of two quarters), however off the color might have been, it would have been enough to cover all four walls and corners and edges, and everything would have been the same.

So what was I supposed to do?  I was NOT starting over.

Long story short, I had just enough in the first quarter can to paint the edges and corners on the three walls I had rolled with it.  I had just enough from the first gallon can to finish the edges and corners in the bathroom area where I had painted from that can.  Then I used the second quarter can to roll and paint edges on the final fourth wall.

So three walls are one variation of the color, one wall is another, and the bathroom area is another.

And fortunately, although if I had tried to mix the cans together on one wall, the slight color variations would have been obvious, when the shades completely covered the walls all the way to the edges, it’s hard to tell that they vary slightly from wall to wall.  If one notices, he or she may attribute it to shadows.

The problem is, I always like to save a little paint for future touch ups.  (And there was no leftover paint.)  But I have three different shades in different places, and not one of the paint cans actually contained the color I was attempting to paint.  (Because of the tinting part of the machine still being slightly off.)  So good luck to future Phoebe on that one!

Ah, small towns.  Fortunately there is one other hardware store that also happens to sell paint.  (Same size paint department, though.)

It only took me five days to get the room done.  (And this does NOT count covering all the dark molding.  I still have to do that.  This was the “easy” part.)  I’ve already been frustrated about how slow this project has been going.  I am still working on patience.  Let’s just hope it’s not a portent for how the rest of the project will go…

**Note: I forgot to take an after photo!  I finished this room and had to leave right after.  I will add the photo when I get back to the house again.


Wednesday, June 10, 2020

Too nice? Or not nice enough?


I sound like an adolescent girl trying to figure out my next move with the football player.  But I’m actually wondering about some of my plans for The House of Goodwill – specifically, about whether some furniture I’ve bought (or want to buy) is too nice or not nice enough for a rental property.

I’ve had to stop myself a few times from buying something I’ve absolutely loved, because I was afraid it was too fragile – and might get easily broken by a careless renter – or too beautiful – would a renter even appreciate it?  On the other hand, do renters today expect for their Airbnb to resemble a Hilton Hotel?  (A really, really nice Hilton Hotel?)

I’ve been advised to price our house high enough to weed out the party crowd.  It sounds like solid advice.  But I wonder exactly what expectations this comes with.

My most recent dilemma arose for this reason:

While cruising craigslist for furniture recently, I saw this ABSOLUTELY BEAUTIFUL antique French night stand with a marble top (oh, I love the marble tops!) for $50.  Even more amazing then the price, was the fact that it was still available 3 days after it was posted.

I had to buy it.  So I sent my errand boy.  (He is still at the age where he is elated by any excuse to drive.)

The problem is, once I saw it live, I felt really conflicted.  As in – this table is too nice for a rental.  Wouldn’t it be wasted in a rental property where the general public probably wouldn’t appreciate it?  

Where a dog could chew it?  Or someone could spill water on it? etc, etc.


So beautiful!  And it has the old-fashioned metal lining inside the cabinet.

A couple of times now I’ve almost bought something antique and then stopped, because I felt like it didn’t deserve to potentially get destroyed somehow in a rental.  And yet, I still need to make this place look nice.  Really nice.  And I know there will be some renters who would appreciate these things.

Will the night stand show up at The House of Goodwill?  I still haven’t decided. 

Tuesday, June 9, 2020

Sometimes it’s the little things


Our first weekend spent at The House of Goodwill was Memorial Day weekend.  It was a fun weekend of firsts – first time boating on the lake, first time swimming in the lake, first run & dog walk around the neighborhood, and first barbeque at the neighbor’s house.

It was also pretty overwhelming.  The kitchen was full of unpacked boxes and cabinets that needed to be cleaned, and shelf liners needed to be cut and added everywhere.  (I had to go to Wal-Mart and buy them first.)  I still had boxes of thrifted kitchen supplies that needed to go through the dishwasher as well.  Just those initial kitchen tasks took several days.



Meanwhile, my husband got the washing machine connected and in place, and the kitchen table set up.

Considering all the work that still needs to be done on the house, it seemed like a drop in the bucket, but even a small reduction in the moving chaos helped tremendously.


We now have 1 cleaned and organized cabinet. Only about 30 more to go...

Just getting unpacked and cleaned up and organized in one room made everything else SO much better.

And, for the piece de resistance of the weekend (insert drumroll please) – the master bathroom now has a door!!



While we still haven’t solved the mystery of why it was ever removed - ! – we DID solve the mystery of where it went.  It was sitting in the attic next to the (also) missing master bedroom closet door.

Sometimes, a little mystery is a good thing, no?

And sometimes, it’s the little things that really are the big things.

Sunday, June 7, 2020

The Sunday morning sermon


So, my “current family” consists of me, my husband, my nineteen-year-old son, and two foster children.  The foster children are 2 and 3 years old.  (So I guess technically they are foster toddlers.)  Here is a mathematical equation that I am very familiar with:

2 foster toddlers = full-time job

Here is another:

1 lake house that needs to be cleaned/painted/furnished = full-time job

How was I planning to do 2 full time jobs at the same time (without daycare)?  Well, that’s a good question.  I’m still working on the answer.  See, the foster toddlers have lived with us now for almost 14 months.  We had a court date a week ago, and the expectation I had beforehand was that they would be leaving to reunite with their family after said court date.

We were all expecting a couple of months off for some family time – a little relaxation time and a lot of time to focus on our House of Goodwill project.

Well, surprise foster family!  DCS (Tennessee foster care system) decided it will be at least two more months before the reunion of these kids with their mother.

This did not fit into my plan.

This last year+ has been full of ups and downs, going backwards and forwards regarding these kids staying, leaving and leaving to live with who?  The life of a foster family (not to mention the kids) is full of uncertainty, and planning anything feels impossible.

So now I am trying to reconcile the demands of this project (that would be nothing but fun without the full-time parent job) with getting it done somehow with the full-time parent job.

Interestingly, I keep getting hit with the same two themes lately.

One is the parable of the vine and the branches in John, chapter 15.  In this parable, God is The Vine, believers are the branches, and we are told to “remain in him.”  There is much more to it than this, but this is the gist of it.

Variations on this have been the theme of our pastor’s sermons for weeks.  It was also the theme of my father’s blog the other day; I happened to see it just after reading John 15 on my own.  Has this ever happened to you?  Every time I turn around, someone seems to be referencing John chapter 15.  (Check out my father’s blog @ adozenseconds.com.)

The other theme is patience.  Patience is one of the fruits of the spirit that grows on the vine (that is us).  This was the whole focus of the sermon last week.  I just happened to listen to a Joyce Meyer podcast (on a completely different topic) the next day that turned into – surprise, surprise – a lesson on patience.

And patience is exactly the fruit I need to be growing right now.

As I was reminded by Joyce – patience is not merely waiting for something to change, as everyone waits.  Patience is the cultivation of contentment in the moment, during the waiting process.  It’s being grateful for the waiting process – and that’s the trick.

Am I ready to relinquish my current foster placement?  For many reasons that I won’t go into here, I am.  But God (and DCS) have other plans for me right now.

So I may not be able to get this project done at the pace I would like.  I will still get it done.  And I am grateful for my 19-year-old son who also happens to be an amazing toddler-sitter.  (And donut chauffeur.)

And while this post may seem to be WAY off topic, I would argue that maybe it’s the most appropriate post yet published under the title of “The House of Goodwill.”  This season in our lives is not about my family’s agenda or our timeline, our dreams or our goals.  It’s about trying to do the right thing, and putting the needs of others first. 

Growing fruit is hard.  At least I can look at the water while I work on it.

Saturday, June 6, 2020

The Goodwill book club


Of all of the things I love about Goodwill, perhaps the thing I love the most at Goodwill is – the books!  Goodwill has a HUGE offering of books, and it’s always really diverse.  While you may not score if you go there in search of a specific title, if you’re just looking for something interesting or different, you’re sure to find it.



If you enjoy reading cookbooks, as I do, there is an entire bookcase just for cookbooks.  I’ve seen everything – Indian cooking, Italian, grilling cookbooks, diet – it’s all there.

Goodwill’s always got lots of classics, interesting textbooks and great foreign language-learning books.  And the children’s book section is incredible.

At Goodwill, all hardback books are $3 and softcovers are $1.  That’s cheaper than buying a magazine!

My friends and family know that I love to read.  It is the first thing and the last thing I do each day.  I like to spend the first hour (at least) of my day quietly, with a good book and coffee.  It’s my favorite hour of the day, and on the (very rare) days when I can’t, the rest of my day just usually feels off.

Here’s what I’ve been reading lately, all found at Goodwill:



Searching for God Knows What by Donald Miller

Donald Miller writes essays about finding God in daily life, and he’s an interesting writer.  I heard him speak once on a book tour, and it was great, but I enjoyed his opening speaker even more.  She was a writer/comedienne named Susan Isaacs, who wrote this insightful and funny book called Angry Conversations with God.  If you grew up in church, it’s probably very relatable.




Great Painters and Great Paintings compiled by Reader’s Digest

You know when there’s a subject that interests you, and you want to learn more about it, but you don't necessarily want to invest in reading 500 pages of small print about it?  This book is perfect – just enough information about each of the artists to learn a bit about their lives and contributions – with a couple of photos of some of their greatest paintings.

This is my Saturday book – I just read it on the weekends, and it’s so fantastic and inspiring that I can’t figure out, WHY am I not painting??  (Oh, wait, I remember.  I’m raising foster kids and putting together a house.)



What Remains by Carole Radziwell

A beautiful book by a woman who married into the Kennedy family.  This biography follows her life, with a focus on the summer that John Kennedy Jr and his wife Carolyn died, three weeks before her husband died of cancer.  It’s a memoir about how feels to be in your mid-thirties and feel “like the most interesting part of your life has ended,” and having to start over after massive loss.

**Readers note** The Goodwill book club enjoys a very exclusive membership.  It currently consists of one woman and two dogs.  While the cost of joining at this time may be cost prohibitive, the books will be available for free (sort of) quite soon.  You will be able to find them on the shelves at The House of Goodwill, where you will be welcome to enjoy them by the lake with a good cup of coffee, or glass of wine.